Dating too long a site for dating and friendship
I didn’t know if I’d ever have the chance to be loved. It’s all too easy to internalize the assumptions that we are rudimentary facsimiles of the people we actually want to be, or that we take on a lifestyle that’s all about mutilating our “God-given, natural” bodies.
Being a person of color that floats between the queer world and the straight world adds all the more pressure.
I found early disclosure necessary because we live in a world where trans panic is still justification for devaluing and even harming trans women.
Given how well things have turned out, it was definitely a good investment.
He was a black guy, of Jamaican descent, and he often explained that coming from a single-mother household put more pressure on him to be a certain kind of man.
Though we had a ton of chemistry, he couldn’t understand the ways in which he constantly invalidated my identity.
S., while countless others have been attacked or have attempted suicide.
We rarely discuss the fact that often trans women are killed at the hands of their lovers or romantic or sexual partners, like Ty Underwood, a black trans woman, who was allegedly shot and murdered by a man she’d briefly been dating.